How to Mess up a Marriage

I know that this post may sound 1950’s old fashioned, but here are some thoughts about ways to NOT safeguard your marriage…

HOW TO MUCK UP A MARRIAGE…

(1) Schedule regular lunches with the opposite sex… alone. Better to do the group dynamic. Its just not wise to go solo, besides it looks suspecious. I had a married woman who was a professional contact me numerous times to meet for lunch. I told my secretary to tell her, “You have to bring your husband or he is not going to meet with you”. She invited her CPA husband who was polite and sat quietly while we all had lunch.

(2) Visit On line chat rooms - A great way to muck up a marriage. People are more vulnerable for some reason and begin to go down a road they may soon regret. How many people start building a relationship and… end up chasing some dude or dudette to Texas? I had this happen once where a gal helping with the church fired up a chat room relationship. She ended up getting divorsed, moving out of state and getting married.

(3) Take frequent drives alone in the same car with the opposite sex. Yea, you are going to waste gas! Yea, it may feel ackward to climb into separate cars and then drive to the same destination only minutes away.

(4) Offer your free counseling services for one-on-one marriage counseling with the opposite sex. I am happy to talk to the men about their marriages, but I like to make the hand off for a woman to talk to a counselor or another woman.

(5) GO TO CLUBS WITH FRIENDS - People go to clubs not because its “two-for-one” night. Clubs are not just about entertainment either, they are a PATHWAY that leads to something else.

Being married and doing the club scene is flirting with the beginning of the end. Clubs are not just one-stop entertainment. Entering a club is setting your foot on a well traveled PATH that may lead somewhere else.

And the END of that path has pain, regret, and remorse written all over the top of it. Enter at your own risk, but it would be wise to do otherwise.